I recently heard a speaker say, “you are the average of the 5 people with whom you most frequently you surround yourself.” Now, I’m not sure if the guy made it up or if it is a notion that most people are aware of, but it was the first time I had heard this and it really stuck a chord with me. I started to reflect on how I perceive myself, who I wish others to perceive me as, and how I perceive the people with whom I frequently surround myself. I’m pretty confident that there will always be a slight variation in how people wish to be perceived and how they actually are perceived. From the feedback of family and friends, I believe that my idea of who I am and who others see me as are fortunately not too dissimilar. Also, on reflection, I realize that the people with whom I frequently surround myself in my personal life are all people who have numerous qualities that I admire.
However, I became curious if my social media habits work in the same way. Platforms like Facebook allow people to keep connections with individuals from our past, many of whom we might have met once and may never see again in person. Yet Instagram connects us with people who we may have never met, but share common photo interests. Snapchat is more selective for our closest circles who won’t judge us for a silly snapshot and can be trusted not to screenshot a potentially embarrassing photo that could later be used for blackmail. LinkedIn allows for connections with people whom we might admire professionally or those with whom we seek to network. Twitter also allows connections with people whose opinions we admire, but are highly unlikely to ever meet, such as celebrities.
It has become a common practice for companies to research prospective employees, and is not too difficult of a task with all of these platforms available to the public. It’s even not unheard of for companies to look into the social media platforms of the friends of their prospective employees. Which brings me back to an addition onto my initial reflection. Who are the people with whom I most frequently surround myself with on social media? Do they accurately reflect the type of person that I want to portray to an employer? Do my interactions on social media reflect the quality of interactions in my personal life? These are all concerns to keep in mind when accepting a connection on a social media platform. It might say more about an individual to others than most people will have previously considered.


